Saturday, 29 October 2011

Haggling


I love haggling.  I keep trying to find more things to buy so I can indulge myself.  After an initial shaky start and a relenting nature I have turned into a master-barterer.  I don’t go in for pretending I want something else and then slowly getting around to the item I am genuinely interested in, pretending to the shop keeper that is the less preferable option.  I tell them exactly what I want, and if they have it I unequivocally let them know that I will, under certain conditions, be happy to buy it from them.   I also don’t halve the price they go in with as an opening offer.  Neither do I spend ages um-ing and ah-ing over a few rupees to meet them in the middle.  All these methods lead only to a very happy shopkeeper, and me being out of pocket.

My techniques are simple.  I let the vendor know what I am after, and ask them how much they want for it.  Whatever price they come up with, I feign a look of incredulity and tell them very firmly, with a smile of course, that under no uncertain terms will I be buying the item at that price.  I ask them to give me a better price, and they might knock a little off.   Then I will think of the price I will be happy to pay, usually around a third of what they are asking, and proffer a little less than this.   The trick is then to stay at this price.  Never waver, show no weakness, and remain firm and completely resolute.  Do not concede a single rupee. Very firmly and politely, I let them know that the price I have offered is the only one I am willing to pay.  They will invariably try and engage me in a price negotiation, often saying that they will make no profit from the price I have offered.  But still it is imperative not to yield, hold eye contact, keep smiling, and stand strong.   If they are stubborn or have misread my resolve, and continue to try and make me increase my price, politely, I hand the items back to the vendor and tell them one last time that I will only buy the item at the price I have already stated.  Then comes the best bit.  As I start to walk out the shop, realising that they can’t let a sale go by, they name a price very close to the one I have been offering them.  Ha-ha, got them!  I   graciously accept their counter offer.  They initially feel good that they have got me to move on price, but that soon fades when they realise that they have not made the exorbitant amount of money they wanted to on the sale.  Quite frequently, when they have become aware of this they will ask for more, but it is too late, the deal has been made.  ‘Please, make me happy, 100 more rupees.’ 

If the vendor is smiling when I walk out of the shop I do not consider myself to have a bartered well, if they are reticent, I am pleased with my efforts. 

I take far too much pleasure in seeing these shop keepers pissed off after I have bought something from them, and gloat for hours over my victory.   

Saturday, 22 October 2011

Palolem Beach


Palolem, I was here 7 years ago, so it is difficult not to compare then with now, and since I was here last there has been a massive development with regard to tourism.  That is not to say it is a horrible place, it is still beautiful, and for a two week holiday the place is idyllic.  There is a real festival atmosphere to the place, the colours of the beach huts and the clothes hanging from the shops are all vibrant and strong, lots of bright oranges, blues, reds and purples, and the sari’s of the local women are bold and glinting from the gold threads weaved through them.  There are people wandering around without much intention in very little clothes, plenty of old wasters, occasional fireworks on the beach and nothing much to do except drink.  In the evenings the bars and restaurants are twinkling with fairy lights, and different music which comes fades in and out as they are passed, the familiar strum of a well-known melody drifts out of the bars, in the little stores the twangs of typical Indian sounds and in the instrument shops men with bongo’s drum away.  There are also sounds of horns, scooters each with a slightly different parp, and people blowing whistles.  The smells are plentiful and rich too.  Wafts of spices prick up the nostril hairs, and in the evening the fresh scent of citronella cuts through the warm air.  And there are the women, the beautiful Indian women who try and henna your hand or sell you jewellery on the beach.  All with bright happpy smiles and a very effective charm offensive ready to gently coax as many rupees as they can from the heavy pocketed tourist. 

I think this is the time to be here, a lot of the beach huts are still being constructed, and the numbers of tourists are at a tolerable level, although over the last three days they have doubled in number.   Once the brightly coloured mechano-like tourist town has been built again for the season, in a couple more weeks, apparently the beach gets insanely crowded.  I have visions of mounds of pink wobbly flesh and gin soaked morons who seem unaware that the British raj has been ousted, demanding cigarettes and water from insolent brown serfs because they are too lazy to wibble wobble a couple of huts down and get their own.   The wi-fi bars are going to be rammed with bored looking whities nursing cool beers and glasses of white wine, sat facing the exquisite beach while looking at their hands and flicking their fingers rhythmically across the screens of their i-phones.   It’s already evident to a lesser degree.

I feel a downside of the development of tourism has created a distance between the Goan’s that work in the bars and restaurants and the visitors.  The interaction between them and the tourists is non-existent and they just serve as an interface between you and your food.  Previously I remember it being much easier to talk with them in bars and feel more engaged with the place.   

And it is quite expensive.  I mean that relatively.  We still have a clean room with a fan and an attached bathroom with hot and cold running water for around £8 a night, and a bottle of beer is around 75p.  We have been informed though, that this will double within the next month….
Although this is a lovely place to bumble around in for a few days, I am looking forward to leaving Palolem and finding places I can feel more engaged with the country.  It is a lovely holiday destination, but it is close to home in the general ethos, I don’t feel I am travelling yet, just holidaying.  However, this is the best place we could have arrived.  I think Alex may have freaked if we had landed anywhere else, this is the gentle adjustment we need to ease those worries out of him and prepare for the journey ahead.  He is writing a diary of neuroses at present, so in a couple of months when he is sat on a dirty pavement eating street food with his un-sanitised hands, he can read back through it and chuckle at his funny ways.  I will not divulge the extent of his irrationality and will leave him to reveal them when he has found a little more humour with them.  However, we are making swift progress with them, and he has now given up fretting over best before dates on bottles of water, we are going to move into a beach hut for a few nights and risk the wildlife, and hopefully after a couple more nights, he will no longer confuse me for a face invading rat, when I try nudge him to stop snoring at night (whoever told him the story about the rat on the face has a lot to answer for).

All the ‘realities’ of home are becoming gradually distant too.  There is no talk of financial damnation, blackberry outages, immigration problems, property prices, the disaffection of youth and student fees. Neither is there the morning commute, the trains stuffed with heavy faces, clothes with no energy, just differing shades of grey, or getting caught in a bustling, impersonal wave of people moving with determined purpose to get the day over with so they can slump in front of the telly and turn their brains off from the daily imagination drain.

We have had our first encounter with a beggar this morning.  A young girl with what looked like a severed tongue approached us at breakfast with a woeful note about her horrendously disabled family and a petition with an ‘official’ stamp to, I assume, attempt in some way to verify her pitiful story.  On it were a few signatures and next to them the amount they had donated to her.  This ranged between 100 and 400 rupees (£1.20 – £5.00).  I thought that was a little excessive, so gave her 20 rupees, which I also thought was a bit too much.  The little wench looked at it with complete contempt and flounced off without so much of a Namaste.  I have resolved though, not to give any more mutilated children any more money.  Not due the girls reaction, but I cannot give money to something I ultimately in no way condone.  It is abhorrent to disfigure a child in any way to make money from it, and by giving money to these children solves nothing, it just propagates the horrible cycle of abuse.  In a country where the average wage of a poor person is a dollar a day, it is awful that a parent can earn substantially more than this by harming their children.  I will still give a couple of rupees to adult cripples, but not to children.

As for our own health.  Our stomachs remain unfazed and our skin still milky white.  And aside from Alex’s nerve quivering hangover today, we are well and heathly. 

Well I suppose we should head back to the beach now, it is going to be dark soon and Alex doesn’t fancy braving the Goan suicide drivers in the dark, on a scooter.  We have escaped from the throng to a beautiful nature reserve for the afternoon and sat by a lush green lake watching an array of birds and butterflies flit around us.  Considering it is only a 20 minute drive from the beach, it is surprising that we have only seen two other people wandering around here.  But that is a good thing.  Places regain their beauty when humans are removed.  It was lovely to sit in the luxury of nature and feel time pass without care.    

xxx

Tuesday, 18 October 2011

Arrival


So we have arrived.  After an epic, but easy, journey, we stumbled with a surreal sense of reality onto Palomem beach at about 8 (local time) this morning.  There was a lot of tarpaulin (a hangover from the monsoon season that has just ended) and shuttered shops, Alex did not look impressed.  I could see the ‘is this it?’ question struggling to be contained in his lack of enthusiasm.  We have now had a couple of hours rest, the shops have woken up, and we have found an bar on the beach, with nice soft red cushions, amazing smells of tandoori cooking, and really freaking cheap cold beer.  Ahhhhhhhhhh, and exhale.  The beer and the postcard perfect view seem to have lifted our moods and Alex’s face is showing a more positive signs of enjoyment. Phew!  

The BBC lied to us about the weather.  Thunder and rain it said.  98% humidity it said.  Bollocks.  It is a tolerable 29o, and the only grey to be seen is the nuances of blue in the calm sea that extends beyond the horizon.

My feet are fat.  Really fat.  Any fatter and they might burst.  I am sure they are slowly expanding throughout the day too.  A consequence of flying, I think, or I have managed to contract elephantitis, already...  

We had our first taste of the Indian love of stamps, procedures and frantic desperation to be first in the queue.  I find it an interesting anomaly that for a nation of people that need to check, stamp, re-check, re-stamp, re-re-check and re-re-stamp there would be a need for some kind of order to make sure this superfluous process happen with efficiency, but there isn’t.  It is a frenzied free for all to get one’s bag as quickly as possible onto the necessary conveyor belt to obtain the next required stamp to show that the bag has indeed been scanned an absurd number of times.  While stood in a queue, in the peripheral of my vision the wheels of a trolley laden with duvets (there was a lot of people travelling with bundles of duvet) would slowly creep sight, looking behind me there would be an Indian trying to look nonchalant, I smiled at them to let them know that I was onto them and there is no way they are going to be getting past.  But that just seemed to serve as a challenge to them and they up their efforts to side swipe you with a sharp jerk of the front end of their trolley.  There seems to be a real art to holding your ground without having to resort to elbows in the face.   I handled myself well though, I adopted the advice given for encounters with wolves, make yourself look as big as possible, stay calm and stand your ground.  No fucker was getting past my maniacally grinning lumbering form. 

And another thing.  The driving.  Now I am no fresher to the more exuberant ways of driving of people from Eastern parts, but not only did we almost crash into a few buses on blind corners while overtaking, but the driver almost took out an old man.  Properly clipped to poor old bastard at about 30 mph.  The driver didn’t even wave his hand in apology, which seems to make even the most dangerous of manoeuvres somehow more palatable, just carried on as if it was a common day thing to run over old men.
Anyway, the mosquitoes are arriving, I feel the little pests tickling my skin trying to find the juiciest way in, so I’m off to cover my succulent hams to stop them making too much of a meal out of me on the first night.  Plus I am feeling a little tipsy now, and my fat fingers keep mistyping.  

Oh, and Alex says' cheers everyone!

Sunday, 16 October 2011

Last Night in a English Pub – for a while….


Mum and Dad Brooker just left.  Damn them, they almost had me wiping salty droplets from my eyes, luckily some stiff upper lips were pursed tightly and we all managed to contain our brimming eyes.  Alex swiftly ordered in some more drinks which gave us each enough time to contract our tear ducts and contain the briny offerings to all our dear friends and family that we will miss tremendously. 
I am now faced with the dilemma to call the others said I would.  Can my emotional stamina hold out, or am I going to be blubbing into the bean burger I just ordered? 
As for going, still not feeling excited, but neither am I indifferent.  I cannot think of anything I would rather be doing with myself at this point in my life.  This venture is just something that needs to happen.  A chance to reinvent the aspects of my life I am unhappy with.  And I am very lucky, there is only one aspect I want to change, my life is wonderful and filled with things many can only dream of, I am in no way unappreciative of the exceptionally good fortune I have been born into, but this bloody work thing, I have got to sort that out!  That is my mission for going, finding something that I will be realistically happy to spend my life doing to earn a bit of dollar to do all that conventional stuff that I also want, a roof over my head, warmth, and a family (shhh don’t tell Alex).   I don’t want to spend my days resenting the minutes that I give up to the pursuit of money; that is a desperately sad way to spend the one life I have been blessed with.  I want to enjoy my days and feel that the passing time is a pleasure.
Anyhow, as for how I am feeling, if anything I am feeling a little run down, which may well be a result of the manic few weeks I have just had trying to get to see as many of my wonderful friends as possible.  Quite possibly I need to shut down for a bit to get a good grasp of the next year.  A few cold glasses of wine are helping me ease into a more lethargic state, I have a year to sort it out anyhow…..
Wine, there’s something I’m not going to be tasting for a while….it’s all moonshine from here on in….those poor poor Indians, they know not what is about to land on their monsoon whipped shores.
Well, I think I will go now, so Alex and I can stare at each other in apprehensive expectation for what we are about to do. 
Farewell friends, I shall be in touch soon from rainier climes……xxx

t - 3 days


So, I have no keys, no job, no house, no income, no car, and only a few books and half a massive bed to my name.  However, I do have a 6 month visa to India, a one way ticket to Goa and £6K in the bank to adventure with.
How am I feeling?  Not sure really, not that I am confused about things, it just is.  People keep asking if I am excited, but I am not.   I just have an image of sitting on the beach with Alex and looking out over the sea, at the year ahead, and wondering what next.  We have no plan, except to go where the mood takes us.  I want to write my book, of course.  In fact I don’t care where I am as long as I have the opportunity to write without the hindrances of having to work.  It’s Alex that wanted to go to India, maybe I am not a challenge enough for him!
For a fleeting moment every now and again a little wave of trepidation tickles my belly, but the thought of the alternative dissolves the feeling instantaneously.  The idea of staying here to work, my soul bent over some ply wood desk and being daily ravaged by some corporate monster, has me running with unwavering enthusiasm for this venture.  For the next year, I don’t have to drive a single bloody thing forward, except a motorised vehicle, I will be going for runny shits as opposed to biobreaks, and I not be huddling any team by conference call on a Monday morning, just my dysentery ridden tummy.